A Therapist Who Is Gay… and Gets It

Some of what we carry is easier to bring into a room where it doesn’t need to be explained. As a gay man and a therapist, I know firsthand how much it can matter to be met by someone who understands the terrain from the inside, and who also has the skill to help with what hurts.

My work centers on helping adults heal from trauma, loss, and life transitions. For many LGBTQ+ adults, those experiences are woven together with others: growing up with a sense of needing to hide, family relationships that felt conditional, early experiences of shame or of being made unsafe because of who you are.

Sometimes the pain is more recent: a loss, the end of a marriage or partnership, or a transition that has unsettled your sense of yourself.

What people often bring

  • the lasting effects of coming out, or of not yet having been able to

  • family-of-origin relationships marked by distance, rejection, estrangement or love that came with conditions

  • a persistent sense of vigilance, of not quite belonging, or of having to perform

  • shame that lingers even when you know better

  • relationships, intimacy, and endings

  • self-image and body concerns

  • grief and loss within families of origin and families of choice

How we work together

My work is experiential and relational, grounded in AEDP Psychotherapy, and draws on attachment-focused EMDR, Internal Family Systems, and somatic methods. We pay attention to what you feel at a pace your nervous system can take in. You won’t be alone with what hurts. I’m open and affirming around all experiences of sexuality, sexual expression and relationship styles, and you won’t need to edit yourself here.

I see clients in person in Westport, Connecticut, serving Fairfield County, and online across Connecticut, as well as in New York City. Alongside weekly therapy, I offer 90-minute sessions and half- and full-day in-person intensives.

For those working with more acute trauma, dissociation, or trauma-specific patterns, a more explicitly trauma-focused approach may be helpful. You can read more about that way of working on the Trauma-Focused Psychotherapy page.

This is a welcoming space for all LGBTQIA+ individuals.